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How to Stop Overeating

I received the following question last week. It describes a problem I know you may struggle with, so I’m answering it here:

“My biggest problem is trying to stop eating when my body has had enough. Once I start, it is very difficult to stop until I am miserably full. It just feels so good to eat… but it’s getting worse. Do you know how I can control this monster inside me?” –Kim

I know this feels like a huge challenge, Kim. And it is. But others overcome it and with patience and perseverance, you will, too.

Here are five things you can do that will help:

1. Surrender to Your Higher Power

Ultimately, it’s not about “controlling” that monster within but learning to welcome and release your feelings without numbing them with food.

Here’s the thing: Your feelings can’t hurt you. It’s what you do with your feelings that either hurts or helps you. As with any addiction—and being unable to stop eating when you feel miserably full is an addiction—you feel powerless to stop. When such a power overwhelms you, you need to turn to a power greater than you and your addiction to food.

Begin each day with this prayer:

Dear God,

Please help me be kind to myself and my body today.
Give me the strength to find loving ways to comfort myself without turning to food.
Help me notice and respect my body’s cues so I stop eating when I feel full.
Help me fill myself with my own love.

Thank you.

With daily prayer, you create space for Divine thought to enter your mind, and Divine strength to enter your heart, so you can stop hurting yourself with food and make a different choice.

2. Learn Your Body’s Cues

Once you surrender this problem to a power greater than you, your main job is to learn your body’s signs of hunger and fullness.

Use this scale:

1 – Starving. Feel light-headed and shaky.
2 – Very hungry. Hard to concentrate.
3 – Hungry and ready to eat.
4 – Not hungry yet, but beginning to feel hungry
5 – Neutral. Neither hungry nor full
6 – Comfortably full. Satisfied.
7 – Very full. Feel a little uncomfortable
8 – Uncomfortably full. Clothes feel tight around waist.
9 – Very uncomfortably full. Almost feel sick.
10 – Overly full. Stuffed and numb. In a “food coma.”

What number corresponds with how your body feels right now?

Write this scale down on a 3 x 5 card and review it several times daily. Especially before and after each meal, rate your hunger/fullness level. The goal is to stay in the green zone of the scale–between three and six.

3. Eat Mindfully

Whether you’re eating a meal or a snack, take your time. Eat slowly. Pause between each mouthful. Periodically put down your spoon or fork. Take time to savor and enjoy what you’re eating. No multi-tasking: turn off your TV, computer or smart phone.

As you eat, make a point to tune in to your body. Notice how your body feels and use your scale to rate your level of fullness. Do the best you can to stop eating when you reach number six on the scale.

Now, sometimes you will be able to do this with ease. But for those times when you can’t, read on…

4. Tame the Monster

When that “monster” inside is roaring and you’re caught in food’s grip, it’s very hard to stop eating. That’s the addiction.

Even though you’re wrestling with a monster, do your best to pause and check your body’s fullness level. While this might seem like a small action, just checking in can save you in these powerless-feeling moments.

Notice your fullness. Feel it. Ask yourself, “Do I want to keep eating or do I want to stop?” This helps remind you of what you’re doing and the consequences if you continue. It also creates space for the whispers of Divine guidance to reach you.

If you decide to stop eating because you’re comfortably full, congratulate yourself for listening to your body’s cues.

But if you still want to eat, tell yourself, “I feel full and I choose to eat anyway.” Turn helplessness into conscious action so you realize you’re choosing to eat even though you feel full. Because when you feel it’s a choice to keep eating, at some point—maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but at some point—you’ll choose to stop.

Sure, I could tell you all the activities you could do to soothe yourself instead of eating—write in a journal, pull out a craft project, squeeze a foam ball—but you probably know that already. I’m not going to sugar coat this: Once you’re on that slippery slope, yes… it’s hard to stop overeating.

There’s no magic formula, except for this:

5. Forgive Yourself

The remorse and shame you feel after overeating harms you more than eating does. Overeating is not a sin. It’s a way of coping when painful feelings grip you and food is the only way you know to soothe yourself. But because you’re reading this, I know you’re open to finding other ways. And you will.

Self-forgiveness is a soothing balm for your soul. Miracles happen when you release guilt and shame. Once you stop beating yourself up for overeating and fill your mind with reassuring, kind thoughts—the same way a loving mother speaks to her hurting child—you transform. And as you transform, food no longer holds power over you because you’ve discovered the power within you.

What would your Higher Power say after you ate so much you felt sick? Talk to your Higher Power when you’re stuck in shame and guilt about overeating, and I bet you hear something like this:

Darling Kim, it’s okay. Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can. One day this problem will be gone and you’ll see how much you’ve grown because of it. I’m right here beside you, guiding you. You’re not alone. Now let this go. All is well and you are safe.”


What about you? Will you practice these five steps?

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12 Responses

  1. Patti

    Diane. It’s like God’s way of helping me finding your email in my email this morning. I know I am a food addict and I now know I will work these 5 steps and look towards my surrender of my food addiction/bulimia. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and God Bless

    1. Diane

      Dear Patti, thank you for writing.. and you’re welcome. I hope this article gives you the inspiration and encouragement you need. Blessings back to you. Much love, Diane

  2. I know that I have always had a very difficult relationship with food… all of my life I have either been afraid of it or I have used it as a drug. Right now, I am trying to make peace with my body and food. I’ve known for a long time that this is the next phase in a long road of recovery for me from childhood sexual abuse and trauma. I’m overeating and realized how deep the problem was last night as I was eating a brand new flavor of potato chip that I neither liked nor could hardly keep down because it was causing me so much heartburn. But I kept eating them even though it HURT! I then went out and had dinner, to try and calm the burning sensation in the back of my throat.
    Today has been a better day and I really appreciate your comapssionate and gentle approach to weight release. I am a deeply committed Catholic and have been in recovery from alcoholism for 24 years. So I believe in God and I believe in the Holy Spirit and they, along with the Blessed Mother are my guides and “liberators.” They will help to set my spirit from from this present addiction, like all the others that have gone before. Healing is a life-long journey. I am grateful that I have been led to your place on the planet.

    1. Diane

      Dear Anne,
      Thank you for sharing. I hope this article helps move you on the path to no longer hurt your body with food. Sending you healing thoughts. Much love, Diane

  3. Dear Diane,

    I came across a link to this post via Facebook and so glad I did! It’s very timely because I have started on a path to what I call weight loss sanity and am struggling with the guilt, shame and shoulds surrounding my food choices. I am not religious but I know that trust is a big part of this journey. If you don’t mind I will be sharing this post on my blog next week. And I will for sure be back 🙂

    Thank you!

    1. Diane

      Dear Kerstin,

      Thank you for sharing. No, I don’t mind at all if you share this post on your blog and thank you for asking. I only ask that you please offer attribution and a link to my website:

      My writings are not religious but more spiritual in nature. And having trust, as you say, is an important part of the process.

      To your health and happiness.


  4. Kay

    Thank-you for your insight. Many days I eat according to a food plan,
    But if I lose my abstinence, by eating one or several things not on the
    Plan I have felt tremendous guilt and shame. I think your gentle approach
    Makes sense. Kicking ourselves never seems to help, but makes you
    Feel more anxious.

    1. Diane

      Dear Kay, Do the best you can to be gentle with yourself and release the guilt and shame. No more kicking yourself, okay? Wishing you all the best. Blessings, Diane

  5. This is exactly what I needed this morning, thank you Diane, so much. I already get your emails, but this one really spoke to me. Bless you. Kay x

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