“Aargh… I’m up a pound!”
“Oh, good… I’m down a pound!”
“Ugh… I can’t believe I haven’t even lost a pound.”
It’s easy to obsess about the number on your bathroom scale. If that number colors your mood and dictates how you feel about your body, however, your body won’t feel loved and you won’t get the results you want.
To release weight permanently, it’s important to focus on the relationship you have with your body, not on what you weigh.
So here’s something crucial you need to do (and I bet you aren’t going to like it. At least at first.)
Learn to love your weight.
Yes, you heard me. Learn to love your weight. Here’s why: Your body carries the energy of your inner thoughts and feelings. Especially if you experienced childhood trauma and had no one to support and protect you, that extra weight most likely holds the energy of pain, sadness and loneliness.
Emotional eating may have been—and perhaps still is—your only source of comfort. And that weight can be like a cozy old blanket that helps you (and your inner child) feel safe.
What if you could shift from seeing the extra weight as pounds of fat to hate… to seeing them as pounds of pain that need your love?
One way to free yourself and your body from negativity and self-criticism is to disregard what you weigh and focus on caring for your body. This may sound counter-intuitive when your goal is to lose weight. But the thing is, you and your body are a team. As long as you link your weight to how you feel about your body you’re not being your body’s loyal friend. You can’t feel strong and powerful together when your relationship is dependent on anything other than love and respect.
How much you weigh is irrelevant. Just love all of it.
Think of the little child inside of you that experienced so much pain growing up. Giving your body love, support and acceptance also gives her love, support and acceptance. And when she feels loved, you feel loved.
Unconditional Love… for Your Body
When you stop being critical about your weight, your relationship with your body feels different. It softens. You move from conflict and tension to love and acceptance.
For example, instead of saying, “I look so fat” when you walk by a mirror (you wouldn’t say that to your inner child now, would you?) you notice how pretty you look in your new sleeveless dress. Or you say, “Thank you,” without skipping a beat when someone tells you they like your blouse.
Ending the obsession with how much you weigh helps you better care for your body. You begin to pay attention to your body’s needs rather than your need to see a different number on the scale.
For example, you stop making bargains like, “I’ll eat only salads for lunch and I expect you to start weighing less.” Instead, you give your body unconditional support. Your mindset changes and you begin to think, “I want to eat fresh fruits and vegetables because I care about you.” Obsessing about whether you release a few pounds as a result begins to fade. You start to take better care of your body because you want to give it what it needs, not because you expect your body to reward you by dropping pounds. And that’s when deep healing happens.
Your Body is Spirit in Physical Form
Redirecting attention away from your weight and towards creating a supportive partnership with your body helps your body communicate its needs to you. When negativity and self-criticism are gone, you become a clearer channel to hear your body wisdom. You allow yourself to receive—rather than resist—insight about the steps you can take to help you release weight.
For example, instead of feeling you “should” drink more water, you naturally feel inspired to grab a water bottle on your way to work. Instead of feeling you “should” exercise, you feel curious about checking out the new health club in your neighborhood. Your body wisdom—your intuition or Wise Self—speaks to you in whispers that you not only hear as thoughts but also as inspired desires. You can hear and feel this inspiration—and follow it more easily—when you make the shift from being your body’s harsh critic to being its friend.
Your body is more than what you see on the surface. It is spirit in physical form. As you begin to look beyond the superficial, you strengthen the sacred bond between you and your body. Trust that by feeding your body (and your inner child) love, kindness and friendship—the pounds will release over time, little by little, and finally… for good.
Will you give your weight your love?